SERIES TITLE: DEAR DAUGHTER, DESTINY, AND MARRIAGE: WHAT EVERY PARENT, WOMAN, AND MAN MUST UNDERSTAND BEFORE SAYING “I DO”
One of the most dangerous ideas in modern culture is that marriage will somehow complete you.
It will not. Marriage reveals what already exists in you.
It does not create it.
Your husband’s house is not where destiny preparation begins. Destiny preparation should begin long before courtship, engagement and a wedding.
In many ways, this is the assignment of parents, especially fathers.
A father should help a daughter understand:
- Who she is.
- Why she exists.
- What God has placed inside her.
- What kind of man aligns with her assignment.
- How to recognize healthy leadership.
- How to become a woman of wisdom, strength, and vision.
A prepared woman enters marriage ready to build. She is not looking for a husband to rescue her from confusion.
She is looking for a partner to advance purpose. Courtship should not be a season of discovering identity.
It should be a season of confirming alignment. When preparation happens correctly, husband and wife hit the ground running.
Marriage becomes a multiplication of purpose rather than a repair center for brokenness and a filling of emptiness.
The best gift a parent can give a daughter is not money. It is preparation.
ButI say to the lady, “if your parents didn’t do that job, then don’t make yourself a failure, and don’t fail your future family. The ball is now in your court.”
If your husband is trying to fix in you what should have been filled in your younger years, you will be feeling like he is treating you as a child. Yes, you were supposed to have captured that as a child, teenager or lady but you missed it. The goal now is not to be pampered. Don’t fight growth just because it doesn’t come in your preferred style.
And I like to say to young men, find out what’s missing in her growth pack and fix it in courtship. Don’t get carried away with emotions and fantasies. Find best practices to address such matters. Joseph, being righteous and devout sought to quietly leave Mary his betrothed lady when she fell out of line. It is not wrong to end a relationship on the ground of misalignment in character and vision.
SELAH!
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Read my books Single and Soaring, If Love Is Not Enough in Marriage, and The Power Couple Marriage Blueprint.